The end of the U.S. election has undoubtedly brought a wave of emotions for many—from excitement and relief to disappointment and concern. Regardless of your views, it’s easy to get swept up in the “what-ifs” about what might happen next.
Here’s a powerful reminder to hold onto: we live in an age where outrage can be profitable, with everyone from politicians to YouTubers stirring the proverbial pot.
Our brains are wired for black-and-white responses, primed to scan for threats—a survival mechanism that’s served us well in the past.
But remember this:
you are more than the sum of evolved instincts.
As a leader, you have the ability to move beyond reflexive reactions, to approach differing perspectives with curiosity, reason, and equanimity. Real change begins with how we respond here and now, in our homes, communities, and workplaces.
“Begin with life where you find it, and make it better.”
I received this quote on an inspirational card at a recent workshop, and it has stayed with me. It’s a simple yet profound reminder that meaningful change starts close to home.
With that in mind, here are some ways to stay grounded, compassionate, and focused on what truly matters:
1. Ground Yourself in the Present
Take a moment to pause. Tune into your body, the room around you, and mentally connect to something or someone that brings you peace or joy.
This could be a loved one, a personal goal, or simply the beauty of the present moment. By grounding yourself, you give your mind a break from racing ahead and reconnect with what’s immediately within reach.
2. Question Your Fears
If you’re feeling unsettled or anxious, gently ask yourself: Are these fears rooted in the present reality, or are they assumptions about the future? Often, our worries are “what ifs” rather than “what is.”
Carl Jung spoke of the collective unconscious—a shared framework that connects us and amplifies our emotions. The perspectives we nurture within ourselves contribute to the energy around us. By questioning and reframing our assumptions, we create a more positive, grounded outlook.
3. Step Back from Social Media Debates
In our age of instant opinions, it’s tempting to jump into the online fray. But these debates rarely change outcomes and often leave us feeling drained. Meanwhile, rates of loneliness and mental health struggles are rising. In the U.S., approximately 36% of Americans report serious loneliness, including 61% of young adults. In Australia, 1 in 3 Australians report feeling lonely some or all of the time (ABC News).
Instead of getting drawn into divisive conversations, consider focusing on real, positive connections. When we choose kindness and respect in our interactions, we create an environment of support and understanding that fosters meaningful change.
4. Be Graceful and Kind
If the election outcome aligns with your hopes, remember to embrace grace and step out of the winner-loser mentality. We are, after all, one species on one precious planet. No one wins when bickering and verbal attacks take the place of constructive dialogue.
When we approach others with kindness and respect, we contribute to a compassionate community that supports everyone’s well-being. Rather than looking at differences as walls, consider them bridges to better understanding.
5. You Are the Sky
Meditation teacher Rick Hanson recently shared a beautiful quote from Pema Chödrön: “You are the sky; everything else is just the weather.” This isn’t about ignoring life’s challenges but rather responding to them with compassion and clarity, staying grounded in what we know is true.
Regardless of the election outcome, we each have the power to make a difference in our immediate lives. Remember that each person you encounter is carrying their own hopes, fears, and motivations. Choosing kindness and respect in these moments can make a genuine difference—and ripple outward to shape a more connected, compassionate community.
So, what small act of kindness can you offer today? It could be a gesture, a supportive word, or simply listening. True resilience comes from how we respond in the present, and real change starts with how we treat each other—one interaction at a time.